Daddy Diaries : About working hard and Kissing feet

Dear Diary,

I am delighted to announce that the days of the tribal dance are over. As soon as Anika completed her third month, she started adjusting to the fact that a dark room means that she is supposed to go to sleep. Then, my sister-in-law sent her this miraculous gift all the way from America and everything fell into place like a jigsaw puzzle.

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Now when she has to sleep, she starts rubbing her eyes as if she is hell-bent to claw them out which is a signal to put her in the cot. Then we switch off the lights and switch on the hallucinator (that is what we have named the device) and she goes to sleep within five minutes.

Anika completed four months on Earth on 21st September which means she has completed one-third of a revolution around the Sun. She has started turning sideways. She laughs now and for some spiritual reasons, loves to put her whole hand in her mouth. A few days back, Geet and I took her to her nani’s house. She stayed there for four days. When we returned, my family pounced on her like hungry vultures as they have never lived without her for so long. We were hardly inside the doors when my mom and dad swooshed her out of our arms and started cuddling her. We were scared that she might get crushed between them. Now Anika was confused as they had been erased from her memory in the last four days. Dear Diary, you cannot imagine the ruckus she created. She screamed like the bathroom lady in Psycho for half an hour and leaked a bucket-full of her tears. We were perplexed and kept checking her for any injuries. It took her a day to re-adjust and understand that no one was trying to cook her for dinner.

Dear Diary,

My daily schedule is so tiring that I am hardly able to spend much time with Anika. I leave home at 7 and come back by 8:30 at night. By that time, I am donkey tired but I do try my best to hover over her and remind her of my face. I can see the difference now. She laughs much easily with people who are with her for the whole day. She has difficulty placing me at times. This really scares me. I don’t want to be like those filmy fathers who earn money for the family and are distant from their children. Twenty years down the line, I don’t want Anika to turn around and tell me that I was never there for her when she wanted me, that I was always busy with my work. God knows that will kill me. I have to find a way to be around her and my family, to give them more of my time. I know she will need me more and more as she grows up.

I do not understand the men who say that they are working hard to provide a better future to their children. What is that supposed to mean? Isn’t this what our parents thought too? But we are still working hard, aren’t we? What about the present? What about spending this moment with your child? Diary ji, people might call me unambitious but I will prefer that to my daughter calling me distant.

Dear Diary,

Anika has developed a strange habit. She can’t stay still. At any given point of time, only her head and torso is visible because she is flailing her arms and legs like one of those mutants in X-Men. Now this poses a great difficulty when she is to be fed. Geet and I magically fell upon the solution one day. You have to kiss her feet for her to stop. Keep kissing both her feet and she turns into this obedient entity. I hope this practice does not continue till adulthood.

Time is flying. A few days back we kept aside a few of her clothes that are too short for her now. It was such a surreal moment. She was such a small tiny girl weighing 2.6 Kg when she was born. Now she is 6.5 Kg and 14 cm taller. Isn’t that amazing Dear Diary? She is such a calm kid, laughs all the day and is a perfect recipe to raise your spirits. After my hectic day, all it takes is her smile to drain out all my tiredness.

Life is beautiful. It really is.

Anika

93 comments on “Daddy Diaries : About working hard and Kissing feet

  1. Aww ji..Happy to hear that she has become heavier and taller.She has such a beautiful smile *touchwood*
    The hallucinator looks cool and I think I should get one to put my 23 year old brother sleep.

    Kisses and hugs to Anika..Muaaaaaaaah

    • Thanks Bhavia. πŸ˜€
      Yes, you should try the hallucinator. It blares soothing music and the little animals in it keep moving. There is a whale at the top and a crab that comes out and goes in. I really like it.

  2. “What about the present? What about spending this moment with your child? Diary ji, people might call me unambitious but I will prefer that to my daughter calling me distant.”

    I believe our parents are now regretting that they couldn’t spend good time with us. At least my Dad does feel so. It indeed is important to spend time with them now, because that’s what they’re going to remember in the future. No toy, no dress, no confectionery…it’ll be these small moments like kissing her feet that will matter to her. You’re definitely a great Dad, Amit! πŸ™‚

    • Thanks Rekha. I know people who boast of working long hours and even during weekends for the future of their children. I find it hard to understand such people.
      Thanks Rekha. I am trying to be a good dad. πŸ™‚

  3. So sweet. We wanted to have a baby girl, but God gave us 2 sons and they have grown up now ALMOST ready to start life of their own. I hope at least God gives us a grand daughter.

    • Thanks Govind. It is such a great feeling to see your children grow. Sometimes I wish to fast forward life to see how things will be in the future. πŸ™‚

  4. Beautiful and heartwarming! I’m sending this to my boys. πŸ™‚ And my daughters in law.
    Aha! Kissing feet? That’s a new one! You have a delightful daughter, and you narrate in such a heartfelt manner, the travails, and more so, the joys of being a father; the anxieties, and the resolve. God Bless the little one, and her parents πŸ™‚

    • Thank you Usha. πŸ™‚
      Every day she throws something new at us and then we have to devise strategies to tackle that. It has been fun till now. πŸ™‚
      Thank you for all your blessings.

  5. Happy Daddying Amit πŸ™‚ She is lovely cute little girl angel who definitely deserves your time more than anyone and anything else πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ very very cute! God bless her and u both!

  6. Super cute post…just like little Anika πŸ˜€
    So glad to learn that you are free of your tribal dance days. Must be quite a relief for Geet & yourself.
    I totally agree with you on living the present to the fullest with your child while working hard for a better future πŸ™‚

  7. She is adorable..such a cutie pie..the best part of a baby’s growing up days..cherish them, Amit. And I totally understand your frustration for not being able to spend more time with her..this commute kills all the energy. In that way, moms are lucky to be with the babies a little longer than dads πŸ™‚

  8. Totally lovely!
    And on your point about Anika forgetting your face or saying “Aap ko mujhse zyada apne kaam se pyar hai!” 20 years from now etc. (which will never happen, I’m sure!) how about you replace the Hallucinator by a giant photo of yours during the hours she is awake and not feeding? That should do it! πŸ˜›

    • Thanks Rickie.
      I don’t want her to develop a habit of going to sleep looking at my picture. That way, even if I am physically present in front of her, she will go to sleep by just looking at me. πŸ˜›

  9. You’re such an adorable daddy Amit. I am sure she will never say that you are distant. You know why? Because distant is being in the same room with someone and yet not be ‘there’. You will be there for her always. You will listen to her. When she tells you what hurt her, you wont scoff at her and say she is dramatizing herself.

    That’s more than enough.

  10. You may crib about not getting enough sleep, of feeling tired all the time, yet this will be the most memorable phase of your life. And the party has just begun πŸ˜€

  11. I don’t read a lot so I don’t know if there exists a certain Daddy tales in the market. You could just go ahead and write one. With your way of looking at Anika’s antics, it would surely do really well!

  12. Posting on behalf of Rachna Parmar as she is unable to post a comment –
    I love these daddy posts of yours. She is so adorable. Every experience is so unique and wonderful. Parenting is always a tough job, mister but the tiny tots really melt your heart, don’t they?

    My reply –
    Thanks Rachna. πŸ™‚ Yes, it is a tough job. I shudder to think of the time when she will start walking and talking non-stop. πŸ˜€ Having said that, I would love to fast forward to that time. It is a strange feeling. πŸ™‚

  13. Most amazing and most touching Daddy Diaries.. … …. You are not only creating a gift for yourself but also for your daughter. This is very precious and when she grows up and understands things, she will keep coming back here.. and experience your emotions all over again… from her perspective.
    I think this is the best gift you can give to your daughter, Amit.
    πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ God bless her.

    • Thank you. πŸ™‚ I started writing this because I would like to read this when I am 70 and if we still have blogs and internet and if the world still stands.
      Oh, she might come to me and say – Blogs? That is so prehistoric! πŸ™‚

  14. Another post from the proud daddy πŸ™‚ I’d say no need to panic about “not being there for her”…not yet atleast. You are doing your best. And you will get there, bit by bit. Take it slow. πŸ™‚

  15. She is adorable *Kala Tikka* even if you dont believe in it :):)

    I guess you are doing your best being around her..may be time to look into writing full time as a profession..then Geet can do the outside earning, while you take care of Anika and work from home eh?

    • Thanks R’s Mom.
      If writing full time will pay my enormous Home loan, I will gladly take it. πŸ™‚
      I would any day like to sit at home and write instead of doing a job that does not interest me.

  16. Wow! She is soooooooooooooooooooooo cute πŸ™‚
    You seem to be spending all the time possible Amit. Am sure, as time goes by you will manage something. After all, you have made such a nice beginning.

    Wishing you lots of beautiful daddy moments πŸ™‚

  17. she is so cute.. beautiful smile.. :).. dont worry generally after every one month there is change in schedule of sleeping.. :P..
    for not spending enough time, dont worry you are better than most of the weekend daddy’s.

    • Thank you Ashreyamom. πŸ™‚
      Yes, her sleeping schedule is erratic at times but she is not the cranky kinds. She drinks her milk and go back to sleep without any hankypanky. πŸ™‚

  18. She’s such a darling, Amit and somehow I can see the cheekiness in her – she’s going to make you kiss her feet for a long time πŸ™‚ I can so imagine the guilt you feel at not being able to spend more time with it! Make the best of the time you have, you’ll handle it just fine! πŸ™‚ Lovely post – on to reading the others!

    • She has this naughtiness in her eyes. Once she starts crawling and walking, we are going to have a tough time with her. I am nudging Geet to buy a treadmill to build up our stamina. πŸ™‚
      Yes, I am trying my best to spend as much time with her but I have to get more organized.
      Thanks for reading! πŸ™‚

  19. This truly was such a daddy post. Given that my daughter is all of 2 yrs old now and I have a different tale to tell, loved reading this post as it took me back by a year and a half…

  20. Kissing her feet makes her stop? Wow.. thats something new.. and I totally understand what you mean. Our parents worked their butts of to make our lives comfortable… but that ‘comfortable’ still means working our asses of in the same way so what was the point in giving up a family life.

    • Yes, she turns into this very obedient girl when we do that.
      The previous generation worked hard. This generation is working harder. Who is having all the fun? I am sure the life of our children will not be easy either. A person who works all day is wasting all the time he will ever have for his family.

  21. I didn’t try kissing feet of both my princesses, AYesha now 7 and Ava, now 3 to stop them from behaving like mutant ninja turtles. But I used to do that (& still do it for my younger one) to make them giggle! I’ve shared this piece about daddy diary with my hubby on his Fb pg; I don’t think he has a Twitter account. Regards & God bless, Pinky

    • I don’t know why or how she has picked up this habit. I sincerely hope it does not continue. πŸ™‚
      Thank you for sharing. πŸ™‚
      LOL at mutant ninja turtles.

  22. “Diary ji, people might call me unambitious but I will prefer that to my daughter calling me distant.” So sweet!
    That was such a lovely post, Amit! Make the most of your moments with your precious little and cherish them! God bless you.. πŸ™‚

  23. Hey Amit,
    Came back all the way here to check if you said she went to sleep on her own. Does she still do that? And you guys do none of the rocking swinging business. My daughter completed 3 and she needs a lot of swinging in cradle to go to sleep. Any thoughts? Perhaps your missus’ thoughts would also help.

    • Wanderer, she does need a bit of swinging at times. It depends on her mood. Sometimes she goes to sleep on her own while sometimes we have to do a lot of hard work.
      My sis-in-law told me that you have to make a habit of leaving the child in the cot no matter how much he cries initially. Give her a belly full of milk and let her play till she is very tired. Then leave her in the cot. That is what she did and it worked for her. Hope this helps.

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