Now that you are here my daughter…

My eyes are adjusting to your presence. The moment when I held you in my hands for the first time seems like a dream. Your being is so surreal that I have to see you again and again to make sure that you are not a figment of my imagination. Your crying sounds like a creaking door and the chap – chap sound you make while drinking milk lands me in convulsions of laughter.  

Yes, you have arrived and now that you are here my daughter, I have a few promises to make. 

I promise that you will never learn to accept your gender as weak. The idea will never be taught to you. 

I promise that you will learn to make your own decisions. I will be there to give my opinion, suggestions and guidance but I will not make decisions for you. 

I promise that you will learn to value a human for his thoughts and not for his religion or cast. 

I promise that I will be there to help you get up after you fall but I will never stop you from committing what I think are mistakes. I will never strangulate your convictions. 

I promise that you will learn to defend yourself and your rights. 

I promise that you will know the true significance of this gift of life, that you will value it in all humans above anything else. 

I promise that you will understand the significance of hard work, you will understand that success achieved through shortcuts does not mean anything. 

I promise you will grow without any cultural shackles. You will never be a part of a family that demands dowry or pray for a baby boy.

I promise you will be taught to respect Mother Earth. You will learn that there is nothing like cultural superiority. 

I promise that you will understand that there are only two kinds of humans – the ones who make mistakes and hide them and the ones who accept their mistakes, learn from them and rectify them. 

I promise that I will encourage you to fall in love. My opinion about your choice will not matter if you are convinced and happy with your partner. And no, the gender of your partner will not matter.

I promise that I will neither show you off as a trophy nor treat you as a racing horse to further my unfulfilled ambitions.

I promise that I will try my best to incline your interests towards various art forms. I will try my best to make you fall in love with books.

I promise that I will be your best friend. I will listen to you with amusement when you will tell me that your boyfriend got his ears pierced seven times. I will listen to you with pride when you will tell me that you broke a man’s arm with a karate chop when he tried to harass a lady in the bus.

I promise you my precious Anika that I will love you unconditionally. My love will not change with your successes or failures, your decisions or opinions. My love will not change even if I have to change a hundred diapers a day. It will not change even if I end up being sleep deprived and dream of diapers falling from the sky during my random power naps.

I am looking forward to spending the rest of my life with you. I am looking forward to see you take your first step, call me dad, laugh out loud, fall in love and live your life.

Im busy

p.s. I might be blogging erratically for a while because of my busy schedule of changing diapers and burping the baby. Please don’t mind.

p.p.s This blog might turn into a daddy blog for a while.

164 comments on “Now that you are here my daughter…

    • Thanks Celestialrays! 🙂
      Yes, the mother is doing fine. Right now we are learning the nuances of feeding the baby and waking up thrice every night. 🙂

  1. I wont mind reading the dad’s posts 🙂
    so loved this . I already hav a feeling that Anika is lucky to hav u both ! God bless
    heartiest congrats
    Happy daddy time amit !

  2. “I promise that you will understand that there are only two kinds of humans – the ones who make mistakes and hide them and the ones who accept their mistakes, learn from them and rectify them. ”

    Really very important. Great promises. I wish time and circumstances help you uphold them 🙂 Very nicely written

  3. Congratulations to the new Daddy nd Mommy.. Lucky Anika is surely a blessed child.. May God always shower his choicest of blessings on her…
    And very very eager for Daddy-blog…:-)
    Happy burping-diaper changing-singing lullabies… 🙂 🙂

  4. Congratulations to both of you! Isn’t she absolutely precious! Such a wonderful time! Here’s a wonderful time doing all those daddy duties, and yes, would be great reading your Daddy blog 🙂

    • Thanks Smitha. 🙂
      Yes, this is a great time. Tiring but we are having moments where we end up laughing uncontrollably because of her histrionics. 🙂

  5. Aww, she is beautiful and what a lovely name too! Congratulations!!

    Love this letter. She is one lucky little girl. 🙂

  6. Omg…congrats!!! She is sooo cute…and what a lovely name! Loved the letter and the promises you’ve made. Looking forward to the daddy blog. You’ll be a great dad, I am so sure about that. Congratulations… 🙂

  7. Wow! Woow! Wooow! This came as a real good surprise! Congratulations! It’ s celebration time at the Sharma household! When did she arrive? Hope Geet is doing well? All the best for fatherhood! Amen for the promises! Anika is a lovely name! You’ll be an awesome dad to her! Lots of love & blessings for her! Cuddles & kisses!
    P.S: You’ll be missed but it is excused for new parenthood’s sake! God bless!

    • Yes, everyone in Sharma household is falling over each other for her attention during the 23 minutes she is awake in a day. 🙂 She arrived on 21st May.
      Thank you so much for your warm wishes. 🙂

  8. Awww… congrats to the proud parents. And I love those set of promises you just made to your little one. I’m sure she’s lucky to have you both as you are to have her. You’ll make a great dad.
    We don’t mind daddy posts at all 🙂 Keep ’em coming.

  9. Heartiest congratulations to you and your family! May God bless your precious li’l Anika!

    Such heartfelt promises Amit! You’re already enjoying being a daddy, I can read that from those touching words. Good luck to you 🙂

    • Thanks for your wishes Deeps. 🙂
      I think I am getting into the groove. I was feeling very tired initially but it is kind of a happy-tired. 🙂

  10. Heartiest Congratulations to you & your family 🙂
    Sending loads of good wishes, love & blessings for the little angel.

    Welcome to parenthood Amit, after reading this very beautiful & inspiring letter am looking forward to your daddy posts 🙂

  11. Hearty congratulations to you and Geets! I wish you good luck and strength in achieving each and every one of your beautiful promises. She’d be delighted to read them when she grows up. All the very best, Amit!! And here’s to sleepless nights and rough days !! 🙂

    • Thanks Latha. 🙂
      Yeah, sleepless nights and rough days are already here. I think I will be hit by them with full force once I join back in the office. 🙂

  12. We won’t mind hearing stories of baby burps and first steps 😀 Many congratulations Amit 🙂 and god bless little Anika 🙂

  13. Congratulations and calls for a celebration…..You are going to be a wonderful daddy to the little princess…..Waiting to read about daddy blog….the blog world is full of mummy blogs…

  14. First of all congratulations to both of you! I like the sound of a daddy blog! Full marks to you in advance for being a fantastic father as Anika grows and sees the different sides of her dad

  15. May God bless your little angel! You are gushing like a beggar who has stumbled upon a treasure! 😉 But hey, you deserved her!

    There are quite a few take-aways for blokes like us out of those promises. Thank you, for this sweet post.

  16. happy happy birthday to the lil princess and loads of happy diaper changing months to new parents 🙂 🙂 baby is just cute 🙂 🙂 she doesn’t look like a new born!!! 🙂 🙂 I simply loved the post script 😀 😀 😀 😀 he he !!!! this burp factor is most difficult to say girl!!!!

      • always 🙂 particularly for the baby girl 🙂 🙂 🙂 they will go profusely 🙂 🙂 I am right now enjoying this period with niece 🙂 🙂 change a diaper, man I will bet, she will fill it with in half an hour 😀 😀 😀

  17. I usually don’t like to go all ‘Awwww’ over things, but this one is so sweet. Father-daughter relationship is one of a kind. May be one of the best relationships. I wish you and your sweet family all the best. 🙂

  18. Congratulations to all of you Amit – including Anika for such a wonderful dad. 🙂

    Of all the promises you made, the second part of the last one moved me to tears 🙂

  19. Congrats Amit, on your little angel’s birth. I am sure she will grow up into a lovely and confident young lady with parents like you. All the best!

  20. Anika is so so so very adorable! Hope Geet is doing well. Here’s wishing more strength to each and every one of those promises. Looking forward to reading more on the daddy blog! 🙂

  21. Awww, she’s so adorable. Congratulations, daddy! 🙂

    I’m sure your daughter will value you for these promises. I wish every father could think like you do. 🙂

    Look forward to reading your daddy posts. I don’t think I have come across a daddy blog before!

  22. Congratulations to both of you and hugs and kisses to lil Anika! 🙂

    Daddy’s are more closer to daughters. So, the Daddy’s posts are definitely going to be worth reading. 🙂

  23. Blah! Became all mushy after reading this post. What a lovely name – Anika! She is blessed to have you as her dad. We need more dads like you around. I hope she inherits your sense of humour as well as rational and progressive thinking.

    What are you talking about!! OF COURSE we’d love to see this become a daddy blog for sometime! 🙂

  24. Congratulations! Anika would simply love you for this. She’s adorable. And what a pretty name! May I ask what it means? Congratulations to the proud parents once again. 🙂

  25. I have been following your blog for a while now but this is my first comment. Lots of wishes to you, Geet and Anika 🙂

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  27. She is an angel, Amit. Loads of blessings for her… she is a lucky girl. I wish every father made this promise to his daughters. My father didn’t promise me all this, but he has actually shown it in action. He has been my greatest support and I am more than the son he never had. And I am enough. I love him.. and your post made me emotional. This post should be shared until it goes viral.
    Anika is a beautiful name.

    • Thank you for your wishes. 🙂
      I am glad to hear that there are fathers who have actually fulfilled all those promises that I have made. You are one lucky girl.

  28. And I promise to make sure me and TBH take a cue from you when we become parents :). I have a feeling I will be a super obsessed mom, and that feeling kills me :(.
    Anika is super cute and super lucky to have a dad like you.

    P.S and no, we would not mind a but having a daddy blog 🙂 make it happen.

  29. Anika is adorable, please give her a tight hug from me. She is lucky to have a dad like you. Congratulation to you and Geet, wishing you many more diaper changing and burping sessions 🙂

  30. Congrats Amit and to your wife. Wishing Anika will grow up to be a compassionate, upright and bold girl. May she bring happiness to everyone whose life she touches.

  31. Hi Amit ,

    Congrats , Just Like you I have been also blessed with a Baby Girl this time.I Really Feel Full of Joy .
    I am printing your Promise to your Daughter for my Daughter , I have already promised this to her even before she was born , not only to her but my Future DIL too as I have a Son too.

    Congrats and Congrats to your Daughter for having a Sane Father.
    Give my Luv to the little princess…
    – FIB

      • Hey congratulations to you too! 🙂
        I am sure you are going to be a great Mom and a MIL. 🙂
        Anika is just 20 days old right now. 🙂

        • I hope to be a non existent person as an MIL.Let them be.
          But thinking how to make my daughter handle the crazy Indian World, despite of all the strength I will infuse in her…May be she may marry some Non Indian…or surely A Sane Indian…Boys flip after marriage like my husband …so lets see , I will support her always and make her strong enough to guide her self ..

  32. wow..!!! Congrats to the proud parents and God bless the little baby Anika.
    Beautiful write-up.. loved it 🙂

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